Tis known by the name of perseverance in a good cause, and of obstinacy in a bad one.

When conviction feels like progress

We all think we're persevering when we keep pushing toward something we believe in. But here's the uncomfortable part of Sterne's observation: the person stubbornly insisting they're right usually feels exactly the same conviction as someone actually making progress. The difference isn't in the feeling—it's in whether you're headed somewhere real.

This matters because it means you can't trust your own sense of determination to tell you if you're on the right track. That grinding, unwavering commitment you feel? It could be genuine growth, or it could be you talking yourself deeper into a corner. A parent who won't listen to their kid's perspective calls it firmness. A person refusing to leave a bad relationship calls it loyalty. Both feel like virtue from the inside.

The quietly unsettling insight is that the only honest way to know the difference is to stay open to being wrong. Real perseverance includes pausing sometimes to ask whether you're actually moving forward or just moving harder. Stubbornness, by contrast, never asks. It just keeps going.