How long are you going to wait before you demand the best for yourself?

Stop waiting. Start demanding better.

We're remarkably patient with ourselves when it comes to settling. We'll tolerate a job that drains us, a relationship that leaves us anxious, a living situation that feels temporary, a skill we've always meant to develop—all while telling ourselves "someday" or "when things calm down" or "I'm not the type." But someday rarely arrives on its own. It gets pushed back by another reason, another obstacle, another compromise we convince ourselves is temporary.

What makes this question sting is how it flips the responsibility back to us. We're not waiting for permission or for circumstances to align perfectly. We're waiting for ourselves to care enough to act. That's both harder and more powerful than blaming external obstacles. Nobody's stopping you from asking for a raise, ending something that isn't working, investing in yourself, or simply saying no to things that don't matter.

The uncomfortable truth Epictetus is pointing at: we often know exactly what we want, we just haven't wanted it badly enough to overcome the inertia. This isn't about greed or entitlement—it's about self-respect. Demanding the best for yourself isn't selfish. It's actually the opposite. People who settle for crumbs eventually have nothing good to give anyone else.