I'm a believer that players are good self-directors, and I think one thing that's good about video games is they can direct their own experience.

Freedom to figure it out yourself

The best moments in life often happen when you're given room to figure things out yourself rather than being herded along a predetermined path. This is why open-world video games feel so different from linear ones—and why the same principle matters far beyond entertainment. When you can choose your approach, make mistakes without game-over consequences, and discover solutions on your own terms, you're actually engaged in a kind of self-directed learning that sticks with you.

What's interesting is how rarely we experience this in real life. Work, school, and social expectations often come with scripts we're supposed to follow. But the people who thrive tend to be the ones who figure out how to write their own story within whatever constraints they have. They see a problem and decide how to solve it. They pick what matters most and allocate their energy accordingly. They're good self-directors.

The deeper insight here is that giving yourself permission to experiment—to fail, backtrack, and try a different route—isn't a luxury. It's how humans actually learn what works for them. Whether it's through games, hobbies, or just stepping back from the relentless "right way" of doing things, those moments of self-direction are where growth happens. The people around you probably aren't saying what you should do—they're just not saying much at all, and that's often exactly what you need.