War is delightful to those who have had no experience of it.

Certainty Fades When Theory Meets Reality

There's a particular kind of enthusiasm that comes from distance. People who've never actually faced a difficult situation—a real argument, a failed project, genuine loss—often have the strongest opinions about how others should handle theirs. They see the grand narrative, the principles at stake, the clear right and wrong. They don't yet know the weight of actually living through it.

This applies far beyond literal warfare. Watch someone confidently explain how they'd "never stay in that situation" until they're actually in it. Or how certain they are about parenting, or managing through crisis, or standing up to someone powerful. The certainty evaporates once consequences become real instead of theoretical. Experience doesn't just change your mind; it changes your entire emotional relationship to the decision.

What's tricky is that this doesn't mean inexperienced people are always wrong. Sometimes fresh perspective cuts through. But there's usually a humbling gap between imagining yourself as the hero in a story and actually being the tired person making imperfect choices in real time. The people most worth listening to on hard things are rarely the ones most enthusiastic about them.