I want you to know that focusing on someone else's failure or success is the wrong way to live. — Scott Cawthon

I want you to know that focusing on someone else's failure or success is the wrong way to live.

Author: Scott Cawthon

Insight: We live in an age where comparison feels involuntary. Someone gets promoted, and you feel smaller. Someone's business fails, and you feel oddly reassured. The pull toward measuring yourself against others is constant—it's baked into social media, into how we talk about ambition, into the nervous questions we ask at reunions. But here's the thing: when you're genuinely focused on whether someone else is winning or losing, you're not actually focused on your own life. You're living in reaction mode instead of creation mode. The less obvious part is that this applies to both directions. We think the problem is comparing ourselves downward—feeling bad because someone else succeeded. But comparing upward, scanning for others' failures so we can feel relieved or superior, is equally hollow. Both steal your energy and attention from what actually matters: the specific, unglamorous work of building the life you actually want. That sounds simple until you catch yourself scrolling through someone's struggles, or mentally cataloging someone else's wins. The moment you notice that habit is actually the moment you can break it.