I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better. — Maya Angelou

I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.

Author: Maya Angelou

Insight: We tend to beat ourselves up for past mistakes as if we should have known better at the time. But this quote reminds us of something obvious we constantly forget: you can't know what you haven't learned yet. The version of you that made that choice, said that harsh thing, or handled a situation poorly wasn't being stubborn or bad—you were just working with the information and skills you had available then. What makes this perspective powerful is how it lets you off the hook without letting you stay stuck. It's not about pretending the past doesn't matter or that you bear no responsibility. It's about recognizing that growth isn't about self-flagellation; it's about genuine change. Once you understand why something didn't work, or what you missed, or how to do it differently, you actually do change. Not out of shame, but out of actual knowledge. The tricky part is applying this generously to yourself while staying honest about whether you're still learning or just making excuses. The difference usually comes down to whether you're actually doing something different now.