Don't Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate wit... — Don Miguel Ruiz

Don't Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Author: Don Miguel Ruiz

Insight: We spend an enormous amount of energy filling in blanks with stories we've invented. Your partner seems distant, so you assume they're angry with you. Your boss goes quiet after a meeting, and you assume your idea was terrible. A friend doesn't text back, and suddenly they don't value the friendship. None of this might be true, but we've already built entire emotional narratives in our heads before anyone has said a word. The real courage here isn't in asking—it's in resisting the urge to protect yourself by deciding you already know the answer. It's easier to suffer quietly in assumed rejection than to risk actual rejection by asking directly. But that comfort is expensive. It poisons relationships, creates unnecessary conflict, and leaves you trapped in a world only you can see. What's surprisingly transformative about this agreement is that it works both ways. When you ask clarifying questions instead of assuming, you give other people permission to do the same with you. Suddenly there's less mind-reading, less resentment about things that were never actually said, and more room for people to actually show up as they are rather than as you imagined them. Most drama isn't built on what people do—it's built on what we assumed they meant by it.