You keep running after the love of the people, but you’ll never get it. And what you do get, will never be eno... — Yasmin Mogahed

You keep running after the love of the people, but you’ll never get it. And what you do get, will never be enough. The hole inside you is too big. You see, it was made by God, for God. How could anything less fill it?

Author: Yasmin Mogahed

Insight: There's something both unsettling and freeing about this idea. We spend so much energy collecting validation—likes, compliments, attention, approval—as if each one might finally feel like enough. But anyone who's gotten what they thought they wanted knows the strange hollow feeling that follows. You get the promotion, the relationship, the recognition, and there's still this restlessness underneath. The insight here isn't that people's love doesn't matter. It's that we're asking the wrong thing of it. When you're trying to fill an existential emptiness with something temporary, you're guaranteeing disappointment. A person can't do what only meaning and purpose can do. Friendships, achievement, belonging—they're all real and valuable, but they're not designed to answer the deepest questions about why we're here or what matters. What's non-obvious is that recognizing this limitation actually makes relationships better, not worse. When you stop needing people to complete you, you can actually connect with them freely. You're not constantly measuring whether they're enough, exhausting both of you in the process. You can simply appreciate what they are—which, paradoxically, is often far more genuine and satisfying than what you were demanding they be.

When validation will never be enough

You keep running after the love of the people, but you’ll never get it. And what you do get, will never be enough. The hole inside you is too big. You see, it was made by God, for God. How could anything less fill it?

There's something both unsettling and freeing about this idea. We spend so much energy collecting validation—likes, compliments, attention, approval—as if each one might finally feel like enough. But anyone who's gotten what they thought they wanted knows the strange hollow feeling that follows. You get the promotion, the relationship, the recognition, and there's still this restlessness underneath.

The insight here isn't that people's love doesn't matter. It's that we're asking the wrong thing of it. When you're trying to fill an existential emptiness with something temporary, you're guaranteeing disappointment. A person can't do what only meaning and purpose can do. Friendships, achievement, belonging—they're all real and valuable, but they're not designed to answer the deepest questions about why we're here or what matters.

What's non-obvious is that recognizing this limitation actually makes relationships better, not worse. When you stop needing people to complete you, you can actually connect with them freely. You're not constantly measuring whether they're enough, exhausting both of you in the process. You can simply appreciate what they are—which, paradoxically, is often far more genuine and satisfying than what you were demanding they be.

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Yasmin Mogahed

Yasmin Mogahed is an American author, speaker, and educator known for her work on spirituality and personal development within an Islamic context. She gained prominence through her motivational talks and her bestselling book, "Reclaim Your Heart," which focuses on love, loss, and the journey towards self-discovery and faith. Mogahed is recognized for her ability to connect contemporary challenges with spiritual teachings.

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