The only reason we really pursue goals is to cause ourselves to expand and grow. Achieving goals by themselves... — Tony Robbins

The only reason we really pursue goals is to cause ourselves to expand and grow. Achieving goals by themselves will never make us happy in the long term; it's who you become, as you overcome the obstacles necessary to achieve your goals, that can give you the deepest and most long-lasting sense of fulfillment.

Author: Tony Robbins

Insight: We spend so much energy chasing the finish line—the job title, the number on the scale, the relationship milestone—that we miss what's actually making us feel alive. The goal itself is almost a trick. Once you get there, you realize that having the thing doesn't feel the way you imagined. What does feel good is the person you had to become to get it: more disciplined, more creative, braver, more resilient. Think about the last thing you actually accomplished that stuck with you. It wasn't just the result—it was the struggle. Maybe you finally started that business and discovered you're better at problem-solving than you thought. Or you trained for a race and found out you could do hard things you'd convinced yourself were impossible. That's the real payoff. The new belief about yourself lingers long after the excitement of winning fades. This actually frees you up in a weird way. It means you don't need the perfect goal or the biggest achievement. Any goal that genuinely challenges you—because it forces growth—becomes equally valuable. The person you're becoming matters infinitely more than the checkbox you're ticking. That's why people can feel empty after "making it," and why small, honest struggles often feel more satisfying than easy wins.

Source: Awaken the Giant Within, 1991