No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. Peo... — Nelson Mandela

No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.

Author: Nelson Mandela

Insight: Hatred doesn't arrive pre-installed in us—it's something we absorb, usually without noticing. Kids don't wake up prejudiced; they pick it up from casual comments at dinner, from who their parents cross the street to avoid, from which neighborhoods are described as "nice" or "rough." This is actually hopeful, though it doesn't feel that way at first, because it means the bias we carry isn't some unchangeable core. It's learned material that can be unlearned. The counterintuitive part is that Mandela isn't just saying love is nice or noble. He's arguing it's actually the easier default—that left to our own devices, humans naturally move toward curiosity, connection, and generosity rather than suspicion and fear. Hatred requires maintenance. It demands that you keep reinforcing the story about why someone is dangerous or wrong. Love, by contrast, feels lighter because it requires less mental labor once you let it in. This matters in moments when you catch yourself dismissing someone based on a category rather than knowing them as a person. It's not that you're inherently flawed—you're just running on some learned programming. And if it was learned, you can actually rewrite it. That's not naive optimism. It's recognizing that the harder road was getting to hatred in the first place.

Source: Long Walk to Freedom, 1994