Patience has its limits, take it too far and it's cowardice.

When waiting becomes an excuse

We often celebrate patience as a virtue, but Jackson points at something we'd rather not admit: sometimes what looks like patience is actually fear wearing a mask. That person staying in a bad situation "for now" might really be afraid of change. The employee who's been promised a promotion for three years and keeps nodding along—are they being patient or protecting themselves from the discomfort of demanding better?

The trick is that cowardice and patience feel nearly identical from the inside. Both involve waiting. Both come with reasonable-sounding justifications. But one is about hope and strategy; the other is about avoidance. Real patience has a spine to it—you're waiting because you're genuinely working toward something, not because you're too scared to act. It has an expiration date built in. You can feel the difference if you're honest: Are you preparing yourself for the next step, or are you just hoping things magically improve?

This matters because we live in a culture that swings between extremes—either brutal impatience or infinite patience. Jackson suggests there's a third option: knowing when your waiting has become complicity, and having the guts to move.