What we found was that the greater proportion of process praise, the more likely the child was to have a minds... — Carol S. Dweck

What we found was that the greater proportion of process praise, the more likely the child was to have a mindset five years later that welcomed challenges and that represented traits as malleable, not a label you were stuck with.

Author: Carol S. Dweck

Insight: We're all walking around with invisible labels we applied to ourselves years ago—maybe in third grade when a teacher said we weren't "math people," or when we flubbed a presentation and decided we weren't good at public speaking. The tricky part is that these labels feel like facts, not stories we made up. Dweck's research shows that how we got praised as kids literally shaped whether we'd see our struggles as dead ends or as opportunities to grow. The insight cuts deeper than parenting advice, though. Notice what "process praise" means: recognizing effort, strategy, and improvement rather than talent. When someone's told they're "naturally gifted," they often stop trying hard things—because trying and failing would contradict the label. But when praised for how they worked through something, they develop what researchers call a "growth mindset." They expect to be bad at new things temporarily. Failure becomes information, not identity. Most of us are somewhere between these poles right now. We avoid certain challenges because we've internalized old feedback about who we are. The unsettling part? It's not too late to rewrite the script. The same principles that shape children's brains shape adults' choices too. Every time you notice yourself saying "I'm just not a person who does X," you're reinforcing a label that might be pure fiction.

Source: The Secret to Raising Smart Kids, Scientific American, December 1, 2007