I truly believe that women should be financially independent from their men. And let's face it, money gives men the power to run the show. It gives men the power to define value. They define what's sexy. And men define what's feminine. It's ridiculous.

Money defines who gets to decide

Financial independence isn't just about having your own bank account—it's about having a real say in your own life. When one person controls the money, they often end up controlling the conversation too. They get to decide what matters, what looks good, what's acceptable. That dynamic shows up everywhere: in relationships where someone feels they have to ask permission, in workplaces where certain people's opinions carry more weight, even in how we absorb messages about who we're supposed to be.

The less obvious part is how money shapes power in smaller, almost invisible ways. It's not just about big decisions. It's that whoever pays often gets to set the tone—what counts as success, beauty, strength, or value itself. When people have financial autonomy, they can disagree without fear of consequences. They can walk away. They can simply live by their own standards instead of performing for someone else's approval.

This matters today because the pressure to outsource your judgment—about what you should want, how you should look, what you should prioritize—hasn't gone anywhere. It's just packaged differently. Real independence means having enough resources to define your own worth and not borrowing someone else's definition.