It's best to have failure happen early in life. It wakes up the Phoenix bird in you so you rise from the ashes.

Early failure teaches you to survive

Most of us spend our early years trying to avoid failure at all costs—we play it safe, pick majors we're confident about, stay in comfortable relationships. But here's the thing: that caution can actually be a trap. When you fail young, before you've built up a reputation to protect or serious financial obligations to worry about, you get something invaluable: proof that you can survive it. The world doesn't end. You don't become permanently broken. You just... continue.

There's something almost freeing about early failure that later failure can never quite match. A failed startup at twenty-five feels like a learning experience. A failed startup at forty-five can feel like a crisis. The stakes feel lower when you're young, which paradoxically gives you more freedom to attempt ambitious things. You're not starting from ground zero when you fail—you're starting from a place where everyone around you is still figuring things out too.

The Phoenix metaphor matters here. Rising from ashes isn't about pretending the failure didn't happen or being naturally resilient. It's about discovering you're capable of rebuilding. That knowledge changes you. Future obstacles feel different when you've already been through the fire and found yourself on the other side, still standing, still learning, still able to try again.